"How often does your brain use 'should' when you are talking to yourself?"
When my coach, Traci, asked me this question, I decided to pay attention to my 'shoulds'.
"What do you think we should do this weekend?"
"What should I make for dinner?"
"What should I wear today?"
"What time should I get up in the morning?"
"Which event should I go to?"
The answer was... often.
Back with Traci, I asked for a recommended substitute for should, need to, or have to.
She suggested three phrases to choose from:
I decided to try it out.
"What do you want to do this weekend?"
"What do I get to make for dinner?"
"Which event do I choose to go to?"
I noticed that I felt more positive and empowered when I substituted 'want to, get to, or choose to' for 'should.'
If you want to feel more positive, you may choose to give 'want to, get to, or choose to' a try.